Mental Health

You've got a lot going on. Whether it's work pressures, bills, relationships, family issues or feelings of isolation, life as a gay man can sometimes be overwhelming. This section provides resources, articles and information about how you can take care of your mental health. We also have listings for our Professional Volunteers who specialize in mental health.

Overcoming Shyness

Posted by HIM on Sunday November 21st, 2010

It seems like there are two types of gay guys: the out-going ones that go from relationship to relationship, who are surrounded by hot guys and the ones who sit on the sidelines picking out China patterns but never picking up a guy.

Introverts, or shy people, are often mistaken for having “attitude” or being cold, when in fact they are buried under the weight of their own self-criticism and feelings of inadequacy. Often these people are dying for someone to approach them so they can have the opportunity to show the world just how wonderful they really are.

The causes of shyness range from over-bearing parents, being an ugly-ducking in high school or residual emotions from hiding in the proverbial closet. Over coming shyness can be as hard as quitting smoking; it takes a lot of work and discipline. Just remember you’re not alone. The majority of gay men describe themselves as shy or unable to approach a complete stranger. Why else are there so many single gay men out there? They can’t all be want to be single.

-Tony

For tips on overcoming shyness, check out:

20 Ways to Overcome Shyness

6 Key Social Skills

Tips for Shaking Your Shyness