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LTR Lowdown

Posted by HIM on Friday June 19th, 2009

Over the long term, the challenge is to not take your loving partner for granted or get sloppy in your comportment.

The perfect boyfriend doesn’t forget simple sentiments and the element of surprise—It’s easy to say I love you at the same time every day and it’s important, but try expressing other sentiments at unexpected times. Leave a note for him that tells him you love the way he smells and he has a sexy smile. Furthermore, falling into established routines can be comfortable and familiar, but spontaneity can be exciting and sexy. It shows your partner is still top of mind and important to you. Be creative: instead of sending flowers to his workplace, send your boyfriend tickets for a night at the theatre, or a coupon for an evening of outdoor sex.

Doesn’t phone it in. With the two cell phone couple ever more common and schedules that clash rather than match, it’s easy to get in the habit of only communicating by phone. These quick check-ins are nice, but don’t underestimate the value of a good old-fashioned face to face chat or even a bona fide conversation. If you must, schedule a “date night” once a week like an old married couple.

Is a life-long learner. Take the time to keep abreast of your partner’s latest developments at work and get to know his family and friends. You don’t have to like everyone he knows, but at least make an effort to ask about them. People evolve over time and its critical you recognize the changes and talk about them before you grow apart. Be inquisitive but don’t interrogate: the more you get in the habit of asking questions or just chatting, the easier it is to know your partner.

Expresses himself. Be open, try to communicate clearly, and don’t avoid the sensitive areas. Does monogamy work for you, or would you prefer an open relationship. What are the “rules”? Do you want to live together, or does keeping separate homes work best for you? What really turns you on? A don’t ask, don’t tell policy only leads to relationship casualties.

Loves himself and has his own life. Maintain a healthy self esteem and don’t rely on your partner to make you happy. Don’t be afraid to have your own friends, activities and passions apart from your boyfriend. This positive and vital energy will invigorate you and your relationship with your partner.