I’ve Recently Become HIV positive

When calculating the risk of passing on HIV, poz guys need to consider the same factors as negative guys. Both HIV-positive and HIV-negative guys have a role in preventing the spread of HIV. Poz guys’ risk of passing on HIV depends on the type of sex they are having, the HIV status of the people they are having sex with and, of course, whether or not condoms are used. Poz guys have one additional factor to consider: viral load.

Gay guys who have acute or recent HIV infection are more able to pass on HIV than guys who have been infected with the virus for a longer time. Read about acute HIV here.

Reduce Your Risk


The best way to reduce the risk of picking up or passing on HIV is to use condoms during anal sex, particularly with guys whose HIV status you don’t know or are unsure of or with guys whose status is not the same as yours.

When using condoms, it is a good idea to use lube. Take your time; do not rush it! Rushed or aggressive anal sex can increase the likelihood of tears and other problems.

Limit Your Partners

Another way to reduce your risk is to limit your number of partners, or establish friends-with-benefits, or regular partners who you communicate with and trust.


Sometimes guys forget that semen can be on their hands or faces. Try not to get semen in your eyes. Using someone else’s semen as lube when you masturbate can also be risky. If a finger goes in your anus, make sure it doesn’t have someone else’s semen on it.

Harm Reduction (may be less risky, but not risk-free)

Guys reduce the spread of HIV in several other ways:

  • having less risky sex (hand jobs, oral sex, etc.)
  • sero-sorting (looking for partners with the same HIV status)
  • not ejaculating inside eachother (pulling out or withdrawal)


For poz guys, proper treatment adherence (taking medication regularly) impacts viral load, which also lowers the risk of passing on HIV.

Undetectable Viral Load

The BC Centre for Excellence in HIV/AIDS and other HIV/AIDS research institutions have found that the risk of HIV transmission for sero-different couples (one is positive, the other is negative) is very low if the HIV-positive partner is on treatment, has an undetectable viral load and is free of STIs.